This piece originally appeared at Stat News on January 25, As a psychologist, I know the extreme damage that torture — the systematic infliction of severe pain and degradation — does to its victims and to its perpetrators. As a result, a year ago the New York Times reported that Gen.
Mending a broken heart is never easy. There is no quick way to stop your heart from hurting so much. But that should not hold you back from loving deeply.
The pain that comes from deep love makes your love ever more fruitful. Go through it, not around it. I realize the most difficult task for a person with a broken heart is to stand still and feel the crack.
But that is exactly what she must do. Because no shortcut is without its share of obstructions. You have to grieve in order to move on.
During the 18 months of my severe depressionmy therapist repeated almost every visit: By going through the intense pain, I eventually surfaced as a stronger person ready to tackle problems head on.
Soon the pain lost its stronghold over me. Detach and revel in your independence again. Attempting to fill the void Psychology writer — without rushing to a new relationship or trying desperately to win your lover back — is essentially what detaching is all about.
The Buddha taught that attachment that leads to suffering. So the most direct path to happiness and peace is detachment.
Parachin tells a wonderful story about an old gardener who sought advice from a monk.
How can I attain liberation? But I have learned over and over again that I can. It is my job to fill the emptiness, and I can do it… creatively, and with the help of my higher power. And here you are, alive, after those 18 months of intense suicidal thoughts.
Click here to learn how you build one. Guess what they all thought about? When you turn your attention to another person — especially someone who is struggling with the same kind of pain — you forget about yourself for a split moment.
Nope, there are many physiological reasons that contribute to the healing power of tears. Some of them have been documented by biochemist William Frey who has spent 15 years as head of a research team studying tears. Among their findings is that emotional tears as compared to tears of irritation, like when you cut an onion contain toxic biochemical byproducts, so that weeping removes these toxic substances and relieves emotional stress.
So go grab a box of Kleenex and cry your afternoon away. Make a good and bad list. Working out your grief quite literally — by running, swimming, exercising, walking, or kick-boxing — is going to give you immediate relief.
Plus you can visualize the fellow who is responsible for your pain and you can kick him in the face.
Create a new world. This is especially important if your world has collided with his, meaning that mutual friends who have seen him in the last week feel the need to tell you about it.
Take this opportunity to try something new — scuba diving lessons, an art class, a book club, a blog — so to program your mind and body to expect a fresh beginning… without him or her.English language Liberation Psychology Network.
I t was profoundly distressing to hear Donald Trump on the campaign trail vowing a return to abusing prisoners with “a hell of a lot worse than waterboarding.” Those thoughts threaten to reverse the work that I and others have done over the last decade to end torture as an official US government .
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